Have you ever noticed how we mark off time in our lives? We tend to do it by events, and not years. We don’t say, “In 1985, I became a different person.” We say, “when I got married, when I got divorced, when I had my first child, when my father died, when I opened my business”……. You get the idea. Life events change us, define us, and they also can contribute to the baggage we carry from one phase of our lives to the next. Relationships become more difficult when we bring ou