Who is the "Self" in Self Sabotage?
You heard about a new position in your company, an exciting position that could lead to the unique career opportunity you always dreamed of.
At first, you got excited as you envisioned yourself stepping into that role, confidant and self-assured. You felt that rush of adrenaline that comes with positive new challenges.
Then a voice popped up in your head. It said,” You can’t do this. You are not qualified. They will look at your resume and point out all the flaws in your experience and education. You will look foolish. You are not good enough. Some people are more qualified. You don’t stand a chance”.
And with each negative statement, the voice is a little louder. The adrenaline you felt at the thought of success is replaced by dread and the shame of that terrible statement ”You are not good enough”.
So you “forget” the deadline and immerse yourself in the safety of what you know. Sure, it’s a little limiting, kind of a dead end, but it’s your comfort zone, and it’s OK. A few weeks go by, a month, and then you hear through the grapevine that someone in your department got that new position.
Someone whose work was always a little sloppy, someone you quietly cleaned up after several times when she left things undone. You sit back at your desk and say to yourself, “Her? Are you kidding me? They hired her for the new position”?
And another voice in your head, one that you hadn’t heard from when this whole thing started, piped up and said,” That should have been your job. You should have gone for it. You would have been so much better than her”. And you know that’s true, but that doesn’t make you feel any better because it’s as plain as the nose on your face in a mirror that you sabotaged yourself with negative self-talk.
Self-sabotage is one of the most terrible things you can do to yourself. People aren’t always aware they are sabotaging themselves, but one persistent clue is that you feel terrible about yourself and your decisions. Some of the symptoms of unacknowledged self-sabotage are comfort eating, drinking too much alcohol, and procrastination, to name a few.
Where does negative self-talk come from, and why would anyone do that to themselves?
It may surprise you to know that the negative voice in your head is actually a part of you that is trying to keep you from being hurt.
Now that’s a kick in the head, isn’t it? This negative voice was created when you were very young to keep you out of danger. Obviously, it did a good job since you are still here.
The problem is that the negative voice seems to not understand the difference between danger and growth, and keeps you from experiencing one under the assumption it is protecting you from the other.
You can consciously try to turn those thought patterns around, but it is very difficult to do since this “program” is one of your earliest and strongest forms of mindset conditioning.
The key to turning that negative voice into a positive voice is Hypnosis.
Hypnosis for self-sabotage is one of the quickest and most successful ways of improving the way that you think and ridding yourself of the unconscious urge to play it safe.
At Gloria Danvers Hypnosis, we find the part of you that is the negative voice, help it to understand that it can be doing a different job that will still keep you “safe”, but allow you to expand and grow. We help it become the voice of positivity. And all in a safe and completely natural way.
Once this mindset has been updated, you will be amazed and gratified at the way you expand naturally into your own life with confidence and a success mindset. Your relationship, your job, the way you feel about yourself, these are all things that are waiting for your positive mindset to take off, flourish and grow.
Hypnosis. It’s the fast track to everything you dreamed you could be.
Book a free phone consultation now to find out how you can Stop Self Sabotage